#51 After Christmas

Right on cue, my first wife stepped up and chose probably the most difficult time of the year to go and need her liver sorted. I mean, straight up we’re already in a strange Year of The Vid, now our Queensland borders have opened up to our Mexican brothers and sister and the inevitable virus infiltration, like beer through my veins is at the coursing stage. That’s affected hospital staff who’ve crossed paths with some positive cases and the timing of a hospital admission coinciding with public holidays was done to perfection. Nah, it could’ve been worse though as was a leisurely daytime and hassle free admission.

It actually reemphasised how significant it is for us right now that we had good health insurance. Although the public health care system is good, it doesn’t come with some privileges that private health does and man does it make a difference. It’s expensive but it wasn’t until cunty cancer hit us that it’s paid dividends. So happy we didn’t cancel our health insurance as we seriously considered it a few months prior. Police Health has been fucking awesome for us.

Today for example, I drove my Mala Hrvatska Zena into Brisbane’s Mater Private for an overnighter (at least). She’s supposed to have a CT scan tonight and be prepped for that stent to be put into her liver tomorrow, hopefully.

Feeling blessed with her own room and natural light. It’s the small things in life.

She’s quite the Little Miss Popular, I’ve noticed as people coming to visit every day. Some actually checked with us first and kinda booked in so that’s all good. Not wanting to come across as a rude cunt but for those that just turn up out of the blue, please don’t. As much as y’all are welcome at ours, those visits really do fuck up Marjana. She puts on a smiley face, makes an effort and then some and is all cool because she loves ya company and shit. But after y’all leave she’s buggered and it’s a little bit shit. She ain’t by no means dead and still not planning on it but needs energy she doesn’t have just yet. Hoping that returns somewhat and then back to game on.

Of course we get why y’all want to come and hang for a bit because we would too and I apologise to those we’ve already asked to hold off for now.

One reason though is that not once has a 30 minute visit been less than an hour and and the hour visits become two hours and they tend to add up. Just something we need to consider moving forward.

Fatigue and pain are causing some issues that we need to sort. It ain’t like anyone’s actually overstayed their welcome though either… like today for example when a spritely couple of sheilas who shall remain nameless (Steinlager please), opened up about sharing the same gynaecologist. They then went deep into (pun not intended… well, yeah kinda was, sorry) some descriptive storytelling about their fanny’s. Fine fanny colouring, fucked up fanny ligaments, since renovated into a wonderful and younger version of fanny and apparently Scandinavian Sven makes an appearance but I don’t think he was the gynaecologist. I dunno man, but yeah, that’s good storytelling shit right there one just can’t rush that stuff, so like I said before, we get it.

Father Ashley came around home today too and some wonderful conversations were had. Vastly different topics to the sheilas before him funnily enough though. He gave Marjana another Sacrament of Anointing of the Sick and reinforced her spirituality strength. He really is a lovely fella and has such a wonderful spirit himself. He said similar things about the first wife so reckon we’re both pretty good at spotting a decent sheila aye.

Two of the nicest people on earth I believe

My favourite person who calls knife and forks, forks and knives, had some blood taken yesterday and it shows her liver results are still all fucked up. They’ve actually worsened again. Not life and death stuff, but needing to be sorted soon as. That’s why she’s back in hospital again.

She’s more yellow than before and at this stage still most like the Yellow Wiggle but as always they’ll take heaps more blood samples and that bruising may just make her more the Purple Wiggle.

By the look of all your social media posts, pretty much everyone we know looks like they had a great Christmas Day. Fuck yeah. Good stuff and nice to see. Ours was good too. Mrs was like the All Blacks in the last couple tests in this year’s end of season Northern Hemisphere tour… fatigued but still turned up. But she was happy.

We’d love to know who dropped this print off today. Thank you heaps. A lovely gesture and remarkably it wasn’t blown away in the gusty wind. Coincidentally we even managed to coordinate a family photo shoot with the Mrs doing her best to look good when she felt absolutely rooted. She did well though, bless her. Cheers Mr and Mrs Scoob.

Thank you

Not really too much to add to this blog but just wanted y’all to know my first wife is back in hospital and we expect her to be there for a few days. At this stage though, no hospital visitors please and if she will reply to messages but maybe just be patient.

Was about to sign off when I forgot to mention after driving her all the way into the hospital in the city, setting her up in her room and heading home, once I got home I had to turn around and go all the way back as she forgot something. Bloody wife trickery I’m thinking, so she get’s to spend more time with me. I didn’t mind at all myself.

#49 Christmas and beyond

With Christmas in two sleeps time it’s looking pretty good that my first wife will experience Christmas 2021. That gets a big as ‘Fuck Yeah!’.

We’re keen as on this one and Christmas has always been my first wife’s favourite holiday, as it has mine.

Merry Christmas to all our family, friends, friends of friends, readers and subscribers. We genuinely hope you have an awesome Christmas and get to spend quality time with ya loved ones.

Bit of a quick turn around between blogs, this one aye. Unfortunately.

Yesterday was Chernobyl Day but before that we had an appointment with our surgeon Peter Yuide who we’d been chatting to a bit ‘cos Marjana’s being a little bit shit with pain and fatigue.

Her blood tests came back with her having some liver issues with bile causing her grief and the fact she now looks as yellow as the yellow wiggle but a way worse singer. Probably more of a Simpsons yellow, which, if I think about it may be karma for me not getting that M tattoo touched on in the previous blog.

Also that due to her hardly being of the healthiest human specimen right now, having further bowel again is pretty much off the table as she ain’t healthy enough to recover. Talking about if she were to need a stoma bag.

It’s her liver that’s making her all yellow and shit as is clear as in the blood test results.

On a positive, he envisages she will probably end up dying from liver failure rather than another cancer related issue and that the liver option is by far the better way to die. So ‘Fuck Yeah’, I think.

Marjana asked how long he thinks she has to left to live and his reply was memorable for the wrong reason.

We were told she will see Christmas and the New Year, but not much longer than that.

I’ll just let that sink in for a bit…

Basically, anything more than 10 sleeps is pretty much a bonus. Ok, in first wife sleep world, that’s probably about 40 sleeps if I count all her sleeps in a day.

We went over to chemo with a few chocolates and some liquid gifts with bubbles for all the nurses, volunteers and a couple of doctors. Those nurse sheilas must’ve thought we really didn’t want to part with the gifts as were crying as we handed the bags over.

Peter the good cunt got a bottle of cognac though. Funny how the one we trust and like the most who often gives us bad news like ‘ya gunna die soon’ gets rewarded best, or at least appreciated most.

Although we started the day at 9.15am and left the cancer centre about 5.30pm, the actual chemo didn’t eventuate due to the liver shit.

Poor ol’ first wife had an urgent ultrasound that afternoon and had to fast for six hours. Tell ya what though, it’s the first time she done anything fast for fucken ages, man.

Saw our oncologist who I’m not allowed to call a gnome even though he looks like one and he even said the cancer hadn’t reacted to the chemo like he hoped.

Saw the palliative care doctor again and he’s like a real nice as dude man.

It looks like the liver issue may have been why my snorting laugher has been fighting continual fevers and fatigue for so long. Because of the bile and related shit we’re hoping an option eventuates either this Wednesday or New Years Eve.

I can’t remember what it’s called but they go down through the throat and put a stent in her liver to alleviate the liver not doing live shit problem. That’ll depend on a few things lining up like firstly surviving till then, being healthy enough, doctor and theatre availability etc.

Also depends on COVID and that gets it’s own line because the world is fucked up now because of it and hospitals are no different.

Coming to terms with possibly only having a couple weeks left to live ain’t real cool.

And yeah we know… we ain’t giving up, gunna fight like a mongrel, aware it hasn’t happened yet, hoping to prove our good mate wrong (as is he) etc.

Quote of the day:

Oncologist: You may find you get itchy and feel agitated.

Me: Agitated? Fuck, I reckon you’ve had this condition since ya married me wife.

Like a good little first wifey, she’s upset more about me than her and I’m more upset about her.

I’m gunna finish on a quote of the day and yes, we know she ain’t fucken dead yet and not trying to make y’all depressed or feel sorry for us.

Talking to our local parish priest, Father Ashley…

Marjana: I hope I get into heaven. I think I will.

Father Ashley: Oh don’t you worry about that Marjana. You are a beautiful person with such strong faith. It’s lovely.

Me: You got so much faith wife, you gunna be right up there in the top part.

It was so nice though to hear Father Ashley recognise her connection to God and confirm the fact I married a beautiful person.

I don’t feel like writing much right now to be honest so will finish by saying we’ve all lost loved ones, but fuck man, this one’s gunna hurt.